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“T” as in Teacher

Rev. Rodger McDaniel

Recently I met a young man transitioning from being a female to being the male God created him to be. A.J. is a mechanic. He told me the story of a day when a customer noticed the initials embroidered on the pocket of his uniform.

“What does ‘A.J.’ stand for?”

A.J. hesitated momentarily. Friendly co-workers listened to hear how the young man would answer. Then A.J. said, “Amanda Jo.” Co-workers laughed with A.J. The customer gave a discombobulated smile.

The Psalmist talked about A.J. when he wrote, “You created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (139:13) A.J. is the “T” or transgender in LGBTQ. We met at a Human Rights Campaign town-hall meeting at Highlands Presbyterian Church in Cheyenne, Wyoming, where I am the pastor. That evening 65-70 of us gathered to talk about the experiences of lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, transgender, and questioning people in our community. Some spoke of discrimination they suffered on the job, at school, in churches, and among friends and family. Others spoke of acceptance and support they had received in those same venues.

With each passing day the walls of injustice targeting gays and lesbians come toppling down. Corporate America took the lead. Good business people recognize the contribution good employees make to their company’s success. Courts are interpreting the Constitution to prohibit state-sponsored discrimination.

Having had a gay brother and many gay and lesbian friends, I have a greater understanding of those issues and a vocabulary with which to discuss them. But I confess the need to grow in my understanding of what it means to be transgender. A.J. was willing to teach me.

A.J. told me that as a youngster he knew that “she” was really “he.” Amanda Jo always assumed a male role in play. As a teen, A.J. self-identified as a lesbian. But, he said, something was missing. “I realized there was more to me than being a lesbian.” He came to understand that though he was living in a female’s body he felt like he was male.

The American Psychiatric Association has an official diagnosis for what A.J. experienced: “gender dysphoria.” It describes humans with “a marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and (his or her) assigned gender.” The APA acknowledges there’s nothing inherently wrong with being transgender. Transgender identity is not the problem. The problem is societal gender constructions that create difficulties for people seeking to live lives of integrity.

The medical community needs a diagnostic term before providing transition medical treatment. There are medical standards of care for transitioning genders, including long-term psychological therapy to prepare mentally for what lies ahead.

For a female-to-male transgender person, there is a lifetime of testosterone therapy, which induces masculinizing physical changes such as voice and body shape while maintaining the presence of masculine secondary sex characteristics. Later there may also be chest and genital reconstruction surgeries.

A.J. has support from most of his family and friends as well as his co-workers and employer. He told me his teenage children jokingly call him “MAD” for “mother and dad.” It’s a different story with his health insurance company. The high costs of medical care come from his pocket. Even though the medical community recognizes the legitimacy of gender dysphoria, most insurance companies don’t.

Many transgender people haven’t enjoyed the same level of support even from friends and family. He’s been courageous, open, and honest, finding that those who care about him want what is best for A.J. But for many, “coming out” is still unsafe. The challenge for advocates is to create the safety that allows greater numbers to come out to their friends, neighbors, employers, and family members.

Knowing someone changes hearts. Changed hearts bring changed minds.

Many people may never fully understand what it means to be transgender. That’s not an excuse for an unwillingness to accept others for who they are. There’s so much about God’s creation that we may never fully understand. But understanding what it means to be transgender is easier because people like A.J. are willing to dialogue with those wanting to learn.

Ultimately, God doesn’t call on us to “understand” one another but to love one another.

Rev. Rodger McDaniel serves on the MLP Editorial Board. After practicing law for nearly 20 years, Rodger McDaniel received an M-Div from the Iliff School of Theology and was ordained in 1999. He was Director of the Wyoming Department of Family Services (2003-2007) and headed the state’s mental health and substance abuse programs from 2007-2011. He pastors the first More Light Presbyterian church in Wyoming, Highlands Presbyterian Church in Cheyenne.

McDaniel was a Wyoming legislator from 1971-1981 and is the author of “Dying for Joe McCarthy’s Sins-The Suicide of Wyoming Senator Lester Hunt” (WordsWorth 2013), biography of a US Senator senator who committed suicide after being blackmailed by senate colleagues following the arrest of his son for soliciting homosexual sex in 1953.

Rodger and Patricia have two children and five grandchildren.

His posts can be found here.

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  1. pennyjane hanson #

    what i would like to see is for all of us to lose the word “transgender”. that is a word that has it’s hands in so many paradigms that it, in reality, means absolutely nothing. “any person who varies in thought or behavior from the binary social standards of male and female.”

    than could mean about anyone.

    there is a word that specifically describes your friend a.j., and myself. that word is “transsexual”. the term is specific, it means “a person born of one biology and the opposite gender identity.

    please, when we advocate for legal rights and responsibilities, let’s know who and what we are advocating for. a transvestite falls under that unlimited umbrella term “transgender”….when i advocate for the rights of transsexuals to use the public facility suitable to their gender identity i am not advocating the right of a transvestite to use the ladies’ rooms. a dress does not a woman make. let’s learn the difference….”transgender” includes….shemales, transvestites, cross dressers, panty fetishists…and any number of other paraphilia’s. “transsexual” includes only people born of one biology and the opposite gender identity……do we really want to paint transvestites and transsexuals with the same brush? do we really want to inscribe into law the right for a transvestite to use the ladies’ rooms when he is acting out his paraphilia in public?

    labels aren’t bad things…when they are used properly.

    May 22, 2014

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